Getting to know someone involves a "Comparison of Scars." It is an important part of the getting acquainted phase of relationship development. Mental, emotional , and physical scars are compared. The point of this is creating a bond based on mutual or shared experiences, pains or suffering. What do we have in common? " Here's where I cut my finger when I was twelve, I never learned to ride a bike, some pet, some one, some thing, idea passed on..."
I have enough scars to remind me that I was not a smart kid. I was also lucky. I ran with scissors. I jumped from rooftops, swang on grapevines, swam where I shouldn't have and flew too close to the Sun. And you will never guessed who I danced with in the pale moon light, (another story.)
btw, Running With Scissors, was written by ?? Burroughs, I think. The DVD is in the top drawer of my dresser. Augusten Burroughs, that's it. This isn't a "How to" book. Maybe a "How not to" book. To "bump it up a notch," leave the lace untied.
